Wondering how to know when to end a relationship? Relationships can be really hard and sometimes they just need to come to an end. Saying goodbye to a relationship can be one of the hardest things we ever have to do. You can love a person yet not be compatible with them. Calling it quits can shake you to your very core. How can you tell when your relationship is over (or should be over)? Are you wondering if it is time to call it quits?  Feeling unsure if your relationship is past the point of no return?

7 ways to know when to end your relationship:

1. You cry more often then you laugh.

2. Friends and relatives you trust are suggesting you end things.

3. It feels like you are on a wild roller coaster ride of emotions.

4. You are having trouble concentrating and feel stressed out. It’s hard to fall asleep or you fall asleep exhausted.

5. You feel emotionally drained. Sometimes when we have been on an emotional roller coaster for a long period of time, we may “check out.” You may feel numb to the relationship. Has it started to feel like no matter what you do, it won’t change anything? Hopelessness sets in. Most couples counselors will tell you it’s easier to counsel a couple who is arguing than a couple who is exhausted and has checked out.

Does it seem like you should end your relationship?

6. You don’t feel like your relationship is emotionally or physically safe. Domestic violence is a crime. If someone hurts you when they don’t get their way, they will continue to hurt you to get their way. Violence nearly always escalates without intervention. There is nothing you can do to prevent it and it is not your fault.

7. There have been breakups before. You may have heard the phrase “Getting back together with an ‘Ex’ is like taking a shower and putting your dirty clothes back on.” It will meet the definition of insanity to keep doing the same thing over and over again and yet expecting somehow you are going to get a different result. Until you learn new skills, or have had life changes, getting back together will most likely get the same results.

We all deserve a happy, healthy relationship. If you feel your relationship or marriage may be salvageable it may be worth your time to Find a Therapist or Marriage Counselor go through the course “Magical Marriage in 21 Days” at www.magicalmarriagein21days.com Sometimes the relationship isn’t working simply because you need to learn new skills that make the relationship fixable!